How to Break The Break up Ordeal!

Break ups are one of those bad experiences in life which you would rather see it not happen, especially if you are still attached to that person and can not get over him, because you still think there is something special left. But when that person shuns you away from his life, you don't have a choice but to do something to get over it however painful it may be.

The first few days are the toughest,where i felt nothing good about life and would have liked nothing more but to sink into the ground . Tears of anger,betrayal and of course self pity enveloped me and i went into a shell avoiding my friends and close ones. The next course was to take everything that was his, and break/tear/burn/flush down or resort to any other means of destruction( as i had seen in various movies and soaps, and frankly it did help; at that moment;with the vindictive sort of satisfaction i got from it;but not in the long run as it just seemed silly later!).

I realised after a while that i needed my friends to be there and i needed all their love and support so i hugged them and made peace with them. Opening up really helped to ease the pain of it all. But after all that i still found it difficult to get him out of my head, it seemed to me like it was a buzzing,nagging thing which bothered me at regular intervals. So i decided to distract myself with all my friends offering their helping hand. Shopping,mall hopping, movies and what not became a regular. And i made sure to block him out of my head, to think of some other random topic every time something reminded my of him. i dint resort to dating though,because it hurt too much to even think about it.

So far so good, it went on for a month..

But then i realised i was trying too hard. Even to forget him; and i knew that there was still a part of me which hoped he would come back one day; made me try even more hard to block him out. But with all this all i had done was ensure he was still there around me. And i finally realised what i should have done all this time...let go of him. I had to make peace with myself first and know i had a life to live, with lots more people to encounter, and a lot more love to fall in. I was still a college kid and had to a whole life to look forward to,and these bumps are just a minor setback on the long run. Easier said than done,but i had to make myself believe this truly and love life once more, and that made me feel lighter and good about life and good about myself.

And life will move on,just give it a chance.......