How to Properly Raise a Child

One day, I was visiting a relative who have a 3 year old son. He is handsome and charming, he looks nice and angelic but he has got some weird behaviors. Whenever he is consoled he would start hitting you, when you try to stop him from doing something dangerous he would attack you physically. He also hits his playmates when they're being annoying, such as crying and won't stop. For a 3 year old I find his behavior unbecoming for his age, he is quite aggressive compared to other kids I know.

I found out the reason for his alarming behavior when I stayed for the rest of the day in their home. It is because of his mother. Whenever she consoles him when he is crying and the kid doesn't stop, she start give him sharp glares and shouts at him, warning him to stop crying. If he still doesn't stop, she would give a warning spank, and then more spanks are coming when he doesn't stop. After experiencing 5 spanks from his mother, he sobbed silently. A 3 year old kid copied the ways of his mother in treating other people who are in similar situation. That is rather disturbing, instead of showing kindness and concern toward other kids who are hurt or in bad situations, as what should be evident in most kids their age, he is showing contempt and anger towards hurt or crying playmates. It is due to the fact they have been exposed to physical abused at home at such a young age that they fail to recognize that how they are behaving is inappropriate. It was there and then I realized that kids are the little mirrors of their parents and how they are treated at home. It shows what environment he is in by the way he would treat other.

Parents are the role model of kids, they are the one who children will look up to first and follow their good examples. If hitting a child, snapping or shouting at the child is what you illustrate daily that for him is what his role model would be. Kids who grow up in unhappy abusive environment at home, is most likely to grow up being exactly the same as their parents in disciplining their kids in the future, abusive. Mean abusive kids are miniature versions of their mean abusive parents. We may reason out that these are toddlers, kids, they'll forget about it as time goes by. Who would forget such emotional trauma? Even if they partly forget about it, it will be part of their characteristics embedded in the depth of their mind and soul. They are scarred for life and you can't immediately erase these scars. Parents should be more understanding of their kids, they are kids, and sometimes crying is what they do most since they were a babe, hitting them, punishing or glaring at them is going to help. You need to develop love, understanding and long patience when you become a parent.